Counseling Resources: A Laboratory for Living

Are you stuck at home? Are worried(anxious) about the future? You Are Not Alone!.......... Now that most of us have changed are schedules and immediate priorities, we are finding that we need to increase our flexibility. Therefore, .... I am currently counseling online. This means I have more flexibility to accommodate your schedule. I can see and talk with you via FACETIME and SKYPE (both are free apps for smartphones or computers. To... make an appointment please call Pat at 918-740-3633 (att.cellphone). She will help set you for our meeting! Most insurance is accepted and authorized by your own insurance policy. I am here to help! Dr Mel

I wish you all a very Merry Christmas! It’s a special time for family and friends! We gather with family, friends, and colleagues to make, share, and celebrate new and old memories. Together we honor the reason for season- the birth of the one who’s life changed the direction of history and the lives of the lives of those who trust in Him. At such times, we appreciate being with the people that we don’t see very often. Yet there are many of us are intensely aware the ones wh...Continue reading

GOOD IDEAS create GOOD INTENTIONS always lead to SUCCESS. TRUE OR FALSE? I wonder what your response to this statement is. Usually, with just a cursory thought most of us will think of the many times we had good ideas and good intentions but never followed through with them. I believe there are many (too many to list here) reasons for our lack of success.... One reason is that we seldom Prioritize our goals. Consequently we spend our energy on urgencies and neglect to do things that are really important to our success! Procrastination seems to be a major hurdle to success for many people. Frequent procrastination often is a sign of anger. It could also be an indicator of a lack of commitment, low self-esteem, laziness or lack of motivation or even all of these. Many good ideas are abandoned because of these reasons. We have a genuine desire to accomplish our goals, but we Flinch and abandon our good ideas. We tend to go through life seeking comfort and/or pleasure and/or an escape from our maladaptive response to PAIN (especially emotional pain). Most of us do not like pain. Pain is seen as an enemy to be avoided. Yet, it is actually an ally. It tells you that something is wrong and it needs to be fixed! For example, if you have severe pain in your chest that will not go away, what would you do? Most of us would go to the ER to find out what was wrong. Finding out what is wrong enables the Dr. to take appropriate actions that are likely to save your live! Reacting to Emotional Pain this way (going to see someone to help you find out what is wrong and how to change it) can bring freedom to your life! Pain is NOT the enemy but an ally that alerts you there is something to be fixed! Good ideas and Good intentions can help you achieve your goals if you reprioritize your goals to those that are most IMPORTANT to YOU. Let the urgent have its place but always be mindful of those things important to your success! Dr. Mel ASK YOURSELF IF WHAT YOU’RE DOING TODAY IS GETTING YOU CLOSER TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE TOMORROW. Call me to see how I can help you reach your life goals. (405) 990-9993 Counseling Resources 508 W. Vandament Suite 207 Yukon, OK 73099

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*****PUTTING AWAY/PUTTING ON***** One of my earlier posts was about WHAT OTHERS SAY AND DO TELLS ABOUT THEM! IT SAYS NOTHING ABOUT YOU ---unless you let it.... So, I have a question for YOU: What are YOUR words and actions saying about YOU? (you may be the other) All of us are quick to evaluate others. We can project our own bias to their motivations and assume that what they are saying or doing is all about US! Since ALL OF US are prone to do this, we generate a morass of confusion and miscommunication that impacts our relationships and choices. HOW CAN WE UNTANGLE THIS MESS or Prevent it? Well. Since I cannot change the other one, it seems that I need to look within myself. Ask myself if there is any truth to what their words and action are suggesting about me? If I sincerely and objectively conclude that it is not true, I can dismiss their responses to me as a statement about them. A contentious response will only provide a basis for more negative and prejudicial responses from the other one. So, just turn it loose! This self-evaluation gives you an opportunity to decide who you really want to be (rather than keep a reaction that is triggered by the stinkin’ thinkin’ that you caught as you were growing up and you are still carrying around within you.) It has been written elsewhere that one needs to: PUT AWAY all anger, wrath, malice, slander, and filthy language from your mouth. Do not lie to one another. AND not only PUT AWAY these habits, BUT PUT ON compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience, bearing with one another and forgiving one another if anyone has a grievance against another. Then, you will have made YOUR contribution to reducing the confusion and miscommunication that generates so much distress in relationships! Dr. Mel 405-990-9993 Yukon, OK I CAN HELP!