Resolutions Counseling Group

Your voice will become their own; be mindful of the tone and words you use - they will have to live with them for the rest of their lives.

Sometimes, all they're looking for is empathy, not solutions. @LisaDamour

Reframing: Seeing Students in a New Way ‘Reframing is having the insight to interpret events in different ways -- and to choose interpretations that lead ...to better outcomes. The truth is, we don't act on what children do, we respond to the name we give it. Since interpretation can be heavily subjective -- and since we can't always know of our students' intentions -- we never know which name is the correct one. Thus, we have the freedom to choose any name that leads to the best possible outcome. Is a student who sticks to his view "resolute," meaning that he doesn't quit when things get tough? Or is he "stubborn and out to get me"? Which interpretation helps you reach the student and leads to a better resolution of the issue? If you see a student in the hall talking to friends when class is about to start, which interaction leads to a better result? Teacher 1 frames the student as irresponsible.. Get into your seat now; it's time for you to learn some responsibility." Teacher 2 frames the student as being a loyal friend: I'm glad your friends are so important to you, but it's time to start class, and I want you to be in your seat. Later we can discuss ways to talk to your friends without missing class time." Notice that in both cases the student must sit down, so even when we reframe the situation, as Teacher 2 did, we still aren't letting students get away with inappropriate behavior or conning us to reduce the consequence for it.’ https://www.edutopia.org//reframing-seeing-new-way-richard

Sometimes it is all about reframing to see the gifts God has given our sweet kids